It’s been a while since my last piece. I’m not sure if it’s because I thought I didn’t have anything worthy to say, or because of what I might say. It’s quite daunting, not being able to articulate a certain feeling or putting it into context. I imagine it’s much like writing a song and not being able to get the melody to go with the lyrics. Thanks to the “break it down” concept, it comes down to just getting on with it. The rest will follow, hopefully. Something I’ve learned over the past 6 or so months. You can think about something and plan how you want to get something done, dreams, ideas – whatever. But no amount of “dreaming” will ever amount to much more than that if you don’t do something other than trusting in the universe. This may seem obvious but to those of us who are lovers of dreams don’t take to well to this idea. Reality seems like an invasion of this deeply personal landscape and questions like “what if I lose my ability to imagine?” or “what if I become just another drone!”. Truth is, I lived only to dream and thankfully my vicious wake up call forced me to re-evaluate my mindset. My single desire became to be busy, and productive and more than anything – FOCUSED! Day by day the rules I set for myself are becoming the driving force behind my journey and I certainly have a clearer vision of what it is I want to achieve, without having lost the sense of wonder.
Fear of the Unknown
As the popular as the saying “there’s nothing to fear but fear itself” may be, can we get a little more specific? We always tend to tend to think it’s the fear of enormous feats that it refers to but as humans, we do like to over dramatize don’t we. If in your heart of hearts you think it means go out and take over a multimillion dolllar company, by all means do so, if it’s within your ability AND if that’s your calling. But we all have different dreams and different fears and personally I think it’s unnecessary to do something you’re afraid of, no matter how dangerous it is, just to prove you can. It’s overcoming the fear of something that’s holding you back from experiencing your life in full colour. Whether it’s the fear of picking up a paintbrush and going savage on a canvas without fearing the outcome. It may not be a masterpiece but it sure as hell is going to give you a spring in your step for actually doing it! If you’re usually the most polite and soft spoken person under the sun yet still get treated like you’re a nothing by some pompous bag of inflated ego, speak up for once. Do it load and proud, okay that may get you into a spot of trouble if it’s in a work situation but that’s what the human rights commission is there for and nothing, I mean NOTHING feels as good as standing up for yourself does! I’m going to skip the cliché’s – go sky diving, etc because, well honestly it’s been encouraged as a fear overcoming tool ad nauseum (not that I wouldn’t mind doing it!) Rather back to the very basic and fundemamental obstacle: The fear of change. Yeah, let that sink in for a while…
Confused by the title? Let me explain… Although there are countless personality types, being of a positive or negative demeanour is fundamentally the root of each off shoot. A common misconception about positive people is that they are always happy, never get angry and never let anything bring them down. Unless you’re a medicated, happy go lucky I’m on top of the world constantly kind of person, it’s close to impossible and frankly a bit of an annoyance to people who experience a myriad of emotions on a daily basis.
We also get angry, sad, disappointed and dare I say – EXTREMELY frustrated. But, because we’re of a positive demeanour, those 5 minutes of negativity don’t turn a good day bad. We see it for what it is and find a way to turn whatever the negative intrusion is into a positive, productive outcome. So then why the title “Fearless Positivity”? Simply put, you need a bit of guts to get yourself out of a negative space be it physical or mental and that dear folks takes a fair amount of guts! I understand that it must awful to feel negative all the time although I do believe that some folks actually revel in it… The GRINCH anybody? Being negative on the other hand is always expecting the worst. Never finding beauty in anything and just being miserable as a way of life. It takes a lot of energy, tenacity and good old fashioned stubbornness to remain positive (even in our not so positive moods” It takes 23 days to form a habit and if for no other reason that saying “F@ck you life, I’ll show you!” go for it!
So be fearless, find something that makes you smile. Something that gets you excited and if you’re thinking “if that crocodile eats me, how in the name of green grass could this be positive?” Well you probably just fed a starving animal – good deed done!